From Five Good Minutes at Work

Making disparaging judgments, consciously and unconsciously, can fuel feelings of anger, uncivil behaviors, and outright meanness toward others

If you feel critical or angry towards another, try the following practice.

Breathe or listen mindfully for about a minute.

Set your intention. For example, “May this practice bring me
ease and tolerance.”

Breathe mindfully for a few more breaths.

Think of someone in your workplace who annoys you. As you
reflect, open to and allow all of the feelings and thoughts you
have towards this person. Don’t feed the feelings and don’t
fight the thoughts. Just notice them.

Ask, “What is my story about this person that causes me such
pain?” Listen for the answers.

Ask, “Is this story really true?” Notice your response.

Ask, “What if it isn’t true? What would they be like then?”

Consider the differences between being real and being perfect.